‘Tis the season to be jolly.
For those of us who are fortunate enough to actually have family, it’s time to get together. You’ll put up with Aunt Tillie’s unfiltered comments about everything from your attitude to your clothing, listen to pontifications by the patriarch, and eat that same ole tofu salad that your sister brings every year. You’ll experience dead silence when Uncle Sam’s name is mentioned – he’s still in jail. You’ll get to hear the cherished stories, be in the warm glow of family, and enjoy traditions passed down from generation to generation. You love them, even those who are rather odd. They’re family. … Oh, I forgot.
When the isolation began this year, many clients stopped coming for therapy because they didn’t know that teletherapy was available. Because I am a medical provider, clients could still come to the office if they chose to, while maintaining social distancing. When the pandemic became more widespread, my doctor advised I wear a mask in face-to-face sessions. I provide antiseptic, and I spray client areas between sessions.
These days of isolation provide us with an opportunity to look inside ourselves, to reflect on our lives. Each of us is unique. No matter what we look like or where we come from, we are worthy. It’s important to know that about ourselves and others.
We’ve all probably suffered from cabin fever at some point, but today’s required social distancing and self-isolation are new habits we all need to manage.
Some people can handle the self-isolation while others go stir crazy – and literally do crazy things. Cabin fever can make you feel:
Most people want to go to a therapist because they need someone to talk to. A therapist is nonjudgmental, objective, and present. These days, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and stressed out. Seeing a therapist can help.
B.J. Fogg, a behavior scientist at Stanford University, developed the “Fogg Behavioral Model.” His model shows that three elements must be simultaneously present for behavior to occur: motivation, ability and prompt.
Anger is a basic feeling, along with sad, glad, disgusted, and scared. In our culture, anger has traditionally been the only socially acceptable feeling for men. It’s time to move on from this belief.
According to Arbor Day Foundation, research is proving in study after study that trees are beneficial for mental and physical health.
Veterans are a joy to work with.
When counseling employees of the Veterans Administration, they uniformly comment that they love working with the veterans. My personal experience reflects that same feeling.